The One Thing Needed In Our Relationships
Many people will tell you what is needed for a successful relationship. But many leave out one thing that is most important.
When we are in relationships, things get messy. We screw up and hurt the other person. Sometimes we don;t even know and other times we didn't care. It was about us.
These acts and hurts need forgiven.
Without forgiveness there is no love. We choose to love and we choose to forgive.Forgiveness is just an extension of love.
Forgiveness is not a onetime act. It's not one and done. It's something that needs done until the pain and the hurt goes away. The pain is and remembering is chain that keeps us in the past.
When the pain wells up talk to yourself. Say I forgive her and she doesn't owe me anything. You don't tell her every time you forgive her. Whatever happened can be talked about once and tell her why it hurt and forgive her if she asks for it and even if she doesn't.
Unforgiveness is like throwing yourself on a grenade and and trying to save yourself. It doesn't make sense it's impossible.
The pain will go away - eventually.
Forgiving let's you live in the present and think about and build the future. Dude it's your get out of jail card.There is no chain to the pain.
God forgives us of everything. But first God loved us even before we were created even before time was created.. Jesus paid for all of our sins because He loved us and forgave us. If God can forgive us then we should be able to forgive others of everything.
Forgiveness doesn't eliminate justice. Jesus paid for our debt. He freed us from having to pay for our sins.
What are you waiting for? Forgive yourself and forgive others starting now.